“An elusive notion, to this thing called time”
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“Time”- What does it mean to you? Is it just a numerical representation of nature’s course? A ticking reminder of our temporary human existence? A link that ties our destiny to the universe? What is it really?
From the day we were conceived, our lives had been placed on the pedestal of time. Due dates, time for the first words, the big first steps… fast forward to years down the line- time for schooling, time for finding a “good” job, time to settle down and start a family. An intangible thing that has had such power and dictatorship over our lives, since the very beginning. But is it time itself that has articulately placed our lives into step-wise expectations? Let’s go into a little narrative for a while.
Do you remember ever being mindful about what time of the day it was, wondering if you were wasting any time, when you were a child? I don’t. All I can remember is being a little mischievous brat, my sister and I hanging upside-down in the only mango tree we could manage to climb in our grand parents’ backyard, and being completely free of any conscious thoughts of time. (Well dawh Nishca, you had no responsibilities, and nothing was expected of you, probably other than not going home with a broken bone.. hmm, that popped in my head, so I’m thinking someone reading this might point that out). But of course, as I grew, the ticking clock became more than just a fascinating ornament on display in almost every other room in the house. Its sound grew louder, and the word “time” bombarded my consciousness every day that I had to learn to read those two arrows drawn to numbers on the board of my math class…and wait, then a third arrow appeared… time had Seconds too?! Wow, imagine my younger self at the discovery.
Then time seemed to transform into something that not only needed to be read, but to be managed and respected. I’d become more mindful of showing up to school devotions on time, getting all my chores done on time to avoid the voice of a displeased parent, and fitting my activities into a sensible schedule for the day. As if the discovery to this thing called time wasn’t already fascinating enough, then came the segregated expectations that most grown ups seemed to have been linking with age and time…and as the years went by, it became more apparent and daunting to my teenage self, that there was no escaping a day without being reminded about the fleetness of time- looking around and seeing adults frantically rushing off to work so they’d make it on time, inquires of applying to college on time, hearing that there just wasn’t enough time in the day to get so many stuff done…all around, everything seemed to have been an animated reminder of how humans operated like robots being programmed by time.
I recall thinking, “this couldn’t be the way God wanted us to be living, could it?” It was a question that kept popping up in my mind, each time I saw someone stressing over not getting something done on time, when I fell into the trap of being a time conscious puppet, or when someone would ask me questions of when I’m expecting to do specific things in my life. No, it definitely couldn’t be. So, as it would go, the more I asked myself that question, the more determined I became to unlearn the old, and build a new perspective around time. Did I?
“Look at a tree, a flower, a plant. Let your awareness rest upon it; how still they are, how deeply rooted in Being. Allow nature to teach you stillness”~ E. Tolle
See, the thing is, time didn’t come with instructions or dictations. Humans, as we instinctively like to do, are the ones that have complexly formed all these expectations around it. People who dare to step outside the boundaries of such expectations are often looked upon by the majority as “time wasters”. Just because someone isn’t mindlessly falling in line to be in this modern day rat race…they’re what…wasting time??
If you’re doing your own thing, taking your own time to figure out what it is you want and where you want to be in life, keep doing it my friend. Don’t ever let the voices of the majority break you down. People will always fear and mock the things they don’t understand. That’s just how it is. But the thing that should keep you going, no matter who it is that’s saying you’re crazy for not following a certain path, for not accepting a sure thing; no matter who it is that’s basically predicting your downfall…. is that this is YOUR time. You get to decide what you want to do with it. Planning to build a business of your own? Prefect. Keep learning and honing your business skills, and crush the crap out of the industry. Recently upped and quit an unfulfilling job? Congrats; now who’s down your neck telling you how stupid you are? Still deciding if you want to go to college? That’s okay, it’ll always be there waiting for your cash. Feeling like you have no idea of what you want to do with your life? You’ll figure it out. Take it from a once timid girl, who decided out of nowhere to leave the security of home and journey into a completely new territory on her own. Believe it, work!work! and work some more on whatever it is, and you’ll see it become a reality.
I’ve been discouraged time after time by people who don’t even have any business in my life, the clueless ones who make silly assumptions. But, what’s kept me going and thriving? Trusting the timing of my life. It’s a bit cliche, but by learning to let go of the “I’m supposed to be doing this right now”, and ” I should have had this by now” mindset, so many of the things that were once a dream have now manifested in my life. The universe will give to us based on the energy we put out..I’m in 100% belief of that. The funny thing is, the same persons who try to dampen your spirit with their judgmental views, are almost always some of the first in line to wish fake congratulations, or utter the “I knew you could do it” line. That’s just so laughable.
To answer the question…Did I find the new perspective I was seeking? Let’s just say that now I’m dancing freely to the music of my own life, and I once again feel more like the kid that wasn’t afraid of hanging up-side-down in that mango tree (I wonder if I could still do it now, though🤔). Time isn’t the enemy, it’s the greatest asset we have….and like any other thing that we cherish, it can be taken away in an instant. So, don’t use it doing what others think you should, and trust that the right things come to you, not in human’s timing, but in the timing of the universe.
“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind, he can find the way to enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him”~Buddha