While I’ll miss the warm walks through the parks, slurping icecaps without a fear of being frozen to death, and not having to imprison my body in 10 different layers of clothing, summer has left heart-warming memories worth reminiscing, along with a few bitter ones that have taught me a thing or two. Although I’m feeling a tad of melancholy by its departure, I’m also excited about transitioning into the autumn/fall weather… to be cozy in fluffy sweaters, over-sized hoodies and knee-high socks – yep, I’d say it’s my favourite season.
As I was on my way to do early grocery shopping for the week (I’m one of those annoying customers, who’s at the store door waiting to run in as soon as the clock hits opening time), the crisp morning air and the sight of carts filled with over-sized pumpkins made it even clearer that we’ve entered the autumn season. I stood at the entrance of the store for a few minutes, staring at the pumpkins…not because of their fascination, but because waves of overwhelming thoughts flooded my mind as I stared at them. I couldn’t help but take a picture of the pumpkins as I exited the store, as they’d evoked two main thoughts in my mind .
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance , you must keep moving”- A. Einstein
The unknown of what the future holds can sometimes be nerve wrecking, especially if you’re in a transitional stage of your life. While I’m more of an in the moment person, I get excited and equally anxious when I think about the future ahead of me (God’s willing). Two of the first thoughts that hit me this morning when I looked at those pumpkins, were how drastic things in my life have changed, and that more major changes will be coming my way really soon. I’m now in my final year of college (still feels surreal saying that), and although I’m super thrilled, there’s also that gap of fear about uprooting from a location and routine I’ve become so familiar with, and waltzing into a new chapter of my life. I think what keeps me more on the optimistic end of the scope, is that I’ve fortunately learnt to embrace change, both good and bad. The mere fact that my decision to embrace and keep moving with all the changes has led me to where I am today, gives me enough hope that whatever comes next, I’ll be ready to face it head-on.
I think it’s instinctive for us to fear all the unknowns that come with changes, especially those that are completely unplanned or unexpected. But in life, nothing is constant- time, the universe…. everything is constantly moving, and we have either of two options: we can curl ourselves up into soppy balls and miserably resist, or we can learn over time to shift our gears to align with the changes as they come and go…. and that’s the thing, most of them will come and go. Have you ever had a sudden moment of remembering an occurrence in your life, where you felt like the situation was unbearable? Felt like there was no way you’d get through it?? If you have, look at where you are right now. What feelings linger from remembering? Would you have even consciously remembered it, if something hadn’t suddenly triggered you to? Heck, maybe you even ended up laughing about it.
My point is, many of the “unfortunate/bad” changes we go through aren’t permanent; and a lot are also blessings in disguise, leading us to another level of our beings. As it is with the balance of nature, good changes will also make their appearances into our lives, and when they do, it’s important to fully embrace and cherish them in the moment, being aware that we never know when they may depart.
Another thought that made its way into my mind as I eyed some of the oddly shaped pumpkins was, Now…
“Right now is all we’ve got.”
“I can’t wait to be….”
“I wish I was….”
“I used to be….”
“If only things were different”
Ah, some of the most commonly used phrases of time. In a society where extravagance, perfection, and an ultimate fairy-tale life are mainstreamed to be enviable and necessary, it seems like the frequency of hearing daydream phrases like these have tripled. So many people are spending their every dime to “look the part”, rather than to focus on actually working to be it. “Fake it until you make it”- a phrase that’s abused on the daily by so many persons…which honestly, is bizarrely puzzling to me. Less and less individuals seem to be pleased with where they are in the present moment, and while they’re physically in the moment, their minds are either miles behind the present, or years ahead.
While it’s necessary to plan for the future, many fail to realize that the only slight chance of control we have over it, is what we choose to do in the present moment, in the NOW. Sure, it might not be anywhere close to where you want it to be… But, what good is moping and aimlessly dreaming about it going to do? What’s the sense of wasting your “NOW” away, by wishing for something that was, something that may or may never be? I personally love where I am at this stage in my life. It’s not close to where I’m aiming to be, and some days I do fall into the trap of wishing certain things would hurry along; but most days, I’m aware that right now is all I have, and focusing my energy into making the present moment enjoyable, ultimately adds to the quality of my potential future. The past has long gone, the future is nonexistent. As a quote from one of my favourite books says:
“Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is” -Eckhart Tolle
Some things to think about:
How can we expect to grow, if we become stagnant at the site of change?
Have you ever considered that the future you wished away all your “nows” for, may never come to be..or worse, may turn out to be the most miserable stage of your life?
Are you happy with where you are right now? If not, what are you doing about it?
Should you get a pumpkin for Halloween?😜
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